tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182784574234236293.post1316979970849706076..comments2022-09-07T05:00:35.917-07:00Comments on Mother Mayhem: Just you Wait!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182784574234236293.post-32489252300049608532010-06-07T13:34:22.115-07:002010-06-07T13:34:22.115-07:00Ohhh I've experienced this; I think most women...Ohhh I've experienced this; I think most women have. (Am I right in feeling like this is probably something men don't suffer from as much as we do? Doesn't it seem like women are much more frequently the recipients of unsolicited "advice"?) <br /><br />I think a lot of it boils down to insecurity--when people have a hard time with something they 1) want others to recognize what a hard thing they went through and applaud them for it, and 2) are afraid that if you don't have as difficult a time as they did, it's because you're better at it than they are. <br /><br />If we could all learn to stop comparing ourselves and just focus on others sometimes, it wouldn't be such a problem. Everyone has different experiences, backgrounds, and skills, and someone else's success or failure doesn't say anything about you.mkgshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032027328606342071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182784574234236293.post-91116554734137151412010-06-02T09:14:45.721-07:002010-06-02T09:14:45.721-07:00Holy cow, I hate this! I tell people we are trying...Holy cow, I hate this! I tell people we are trying and it makes me sad we haven't had kids, and they tell me I shouldn't be because parenting is hard. It's like telling single people not to be sad they're not married because marriage is hard. I know marriage is harder than single life... but it is also better. Much better. And I believe parenthood is the same way. Much harder. And much better. I do try to give myself doses of reality when someone reminds me of the difficulties of parenthood, but I also try to let them know that, regardless of the inherent difficulties of the experience, I want to be a parent. Of several children. And I don't think I'm crazy.Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02435558692217021082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182784574234236293.post-62952769158711496022010-05-21T22:08:17.953-07:002010-05-21T22:08:17.953-07:00Ha! That has always bugged me too! I get so annoye...Ha! That has always bugged me too! I get so annoyed! It bugs me just as much as mothers telling me "just you wait you will miss this..." reason this bugs me so much I very rarely complain about my son at all they just look at me and think she must be wishing all of this away I should butt in and give her some advice. Guess what Ladies, I spend every day trying to savor the moments I spend with my son and annoy him with the amount of kisses I plant on his chubby cheeks. I know I'm going to miss it when it's gone that's why I try so hard not to MISS it while it's happening.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10049568978588150433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182784574234236293.post-31603675642652824382010-05-20T17:51:58.976-07:002010-05-20T17:51:58.976-07:00I for one have NEVER wished to still be pregnant!!...I for one have NEVER wished to still be pregnant!! I am sure I've probably said a just you wait comment before, but not with a "you'll wish this" at the end, but more like "first steps eh? won't be long before she's running!" which for me, I intend it to be a look at the fun you have coming type of comment. Although now that I think about it, I've had people SAY that type of thing. Usually it's "Just wait till she's a teenager!" type comment. I let it roll off. Sure teens can be drama laden, but I'm excited for every stage. The only thing I DON'T look forward to teen years is how it signifies how close it will be for her to leave and go out on her own. I've been a lot more sensitive to those comments, though, now that I've had friends and relatives experience unique difficulties which would make such comments very inappropriate (as in the case with infertility or delayed conception). I think you are dead on, though. The "Just You Wait" phrase is a very close cousin to the "I'll Be Happy When" phrase!Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06094281171264262848noreply@blogger.com